How an Executive Avoided Legal Maneuvering and Redefined her “Here and Now” Journey

How an Executive Avoided Legal Maneuvering and Redefined her “Here and Now” Journey

Road of the “Here and Now”

Someone asks: “Why the road?” Another asks: “Is the road somehow symbolic?”

In the philosophical sense, at least for me, the road represents the path of the invaluable “here and now.” It represents also, the hopeful path of what lies ahead.

I personally captured this road shot two years before starting this site. It was an enjoyable day in a special place far away. I never thought at the time the photo would be used in a website or as a symbol of significance, or that so many would compliment it.

But this road was no ordinary road. With each passing curve the surroundings became more beautiful, more picturesque. Appearing unique in so many ways the road was calling to me. I had to stop to record the moment.

I stood atop one of the whoop-de-doo humps situated on a blind curve. It was the best vantage point to engage the camera shutter. It was also the most dangerous.

“I became mesmerized in time, in space. I lost all sense of danger as the surroundings enveloped my senses.”

At first I was distracted from the beauty when listening for oncoming traffic. It was not my desire to become a statistical “hood ornament” with the next passing motorist. But then I became mesmerized in time, in space. I lost all sense of danger as the surroundings enveloped my senses. I finally took the shot.

“How did I come to be in this exact spot, in this beautiful jungle setting?” I muttered. Then it dawned on me. It was my choice. I made it happen. I was where I wanted to be in the moment. I had set life in motion to get past recent heart breaks while looking forward to new beginnings. The road brought me here.

Luckily for my personal safety not a single car came through. The road was remote and hardly traveled. But this made me consider how such a well-maintained road, in the middle of nowhere, could remain in such pristine condition where it received little, if any, traffic to justify its perfect existence.

“[h]alf the journey was in my rear-view mirror. The other half remained straight ahead. The invaluable “here and now” had arrived ….”

As I stood there, reflecting on it all, it caused me to smile. The road of the “here and now” created solace, warmth, new confidence. I had made progress. Recognizing the length of my journey was not calculable with time or with age but instead, by choices, I understood that half the journey was in my rear-view mirror. The other half remained straight ahead. The invaluable “here and now” had arrived.

An Executive Redefines Her “Here and Now”

I recently worked on a project that became truly gratifying for both the person I counseled and for me. It also proved again, that humanistic solutions could avoid expensive legal battles.

An executive, stuck in a tight spot, recently sought my help. Daniella (not her real name, of course) had been approached by a competitor of her employer to break away and join its senior management.

“Like the stench emanating from a sulphur mine, Daniella’s name would waft into the small ranks of those who became disloyal traitors when daring to leave their executive perch. It would get personal.”

If tradition would repeat like it had with those who parted from her employer previously to join this particular company, her exit would be messy. Lawyers would get involved. Her work performance and ethics would be questioned. Internal changes would be deemed necessary to remedy her purported inefficiencies. Like the stench emanating from a sulphur mine, Daniella’s name would waft into the small ranks of those who became disloyal traitors when daring to leave their executive perch. It would get personal.

Daniella had given nearly 20 years to her employer, giving it all, contributing to their success. But the road behind her encompassed no family or personal growth. She found herself lacking, unappreciated, depressed. Life was passing her by. The road of the “here and now” appeared bleak where, unless she broke stride, the look ahead would encompass the same old routine. In contrast the exceptional opportunity with a new employer represented a fresh start with changes that could benefit family, personal growth, her sense of life.

“[Daniella] would be greeted by a lock-out where she would face the demand, “Let’s have your keys, credit card, phone, pass codes and be gone by the day’s end.””

Daniella was well aware of how her departure could go. She would offer to remain a month to help with a smooth transition. This would be greeted by a lock-out where she would face the demand, “Let’s have your keys, credit card, phone, pass codes and be gone by the day’s end.” It would be the equivalent to a swift kick in the butt from a company for whom she dedicated one-hundred percent of her time, favoring her employer over all else.

The challenge was to alter the anticipated course that would follow Daniella’s announced departure. The most reasonable option called for a humanistic approach – a personal touch – rather than pay lawyers to ready countermeasures.

“[s]he found and obtained the rare find, the negotiations for which were more complex than the wine itself.”

Daniella knew her boss well. He was a connoisseur of fine wine. Daniella knew his “wanna be” favorite evaded him. It would command five figures if a bottle could be found. Through contacts she found and obtained the rare find, the negotiations for which were more complex than the wine itself.

When the “ice breaking” moment came, Daniella presented the gift with her heartfelt message that she would miss his daily interaction. She would leave only because she must avoid stagnation that would turn her employer-based friendships into resentment, over time.

“It became a “never forget” moment for them both.”

Daniella’s boss, shocked at first, ultimately broke down. The bottle, symbolic of how well Daniella knew him, how difficult it was to find and how much she cared for his friendship, defined the moment. Spontaneous hugs and tears followed. What awkwardness remaining was dispelled when but a few of their many good memories were shared. It became a “never forget” moment for them both.

Weeks later Daniella was given a fabulous farewell party filled with laughs and tears from both superiors and from those whom she supervised. She received calls from the very top of the parent organization who wished her well and who requested she stay a bit longer to help further transition a team of six employees deemed necessary to accomplish the work she completed daily, on her own, for so many years.

The Aftermath

Daniella is happy. Her departure was seamless. It could not have turned out better for her. And because of that, it was a good result for me where Daniella had a new outlook on the “here and now” which included a brighter road ahead.

Thank you, Daniella for providing me the opportunity to help and to prove that difficult circumstances do not always require expensive “lawyering.”

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5 Replies to “How an Executive Avoided Legal Maneuvering and Redefined her “Here and Now” Journey”

  1. Gordie:
    Love what you have created – huge well done.
    May I join your inner circle?
    Is there an initiation ceremony , where we learn special handshakes, winks and wear a funny costume ? (Fun)
    Michael from Portugal.

  2. Enjoyed the ‘here and now’ Gordie. ! And am intrigued to know how the bitter farewell became the warm adieu.

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